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Walking Toward Healing

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The Surprising Connection Between EMDR and MovementIf you’ve ever felt weighed down by stress, anxiety, or painful memories, you’re not alone. Healing doesn’t always have to be complicated or involve big steps. Sometimes, small and simple things like therapy and movement can bring real change. Two approaches that often work beautifully together are EMDR therapy and walking.

 

EMDR, which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, is a proven therapy that helps the brain process painful or distressing experiences. It was created by Dr. Francine Shapiro, who made a surprising discovery while taking a walk. She noticed that as her eyes moved naturally from side to side, her stressful thoughts began to lose their intensity. This inspired her to develop EMDR, a therapy that helps the brain heal by using gentle eye movements or other forms of stimulation to reprocess memories and reduce emotional pain.Walking might seem too simple to make a difference, yet it is incredibly powerful for your body and mind. When you walk, especially outside in nature, your body activates what’s called the parasympathetic nervous system. This is your natural “rest and recover” state.

 

As a result, your stress hormones decrease, your breathing slows, and your body starts to relax. Moreover, walking releases endorphins, the natural chemicals that boost your mood and help you feel more grounded and at ease.In addition, walking can support the healing work you do in therapy. Many people find that taking a gentle walk after an EMDR session helps them integrate what they’ve processed and feel more centered. EMDR helps your mind work through emotional wounds, while walking helps your body find calm and balance. Together, they create a rhythm of healing that supports both your emotional and physical well-being.Healing does not always mean doing more. Sometimes, it’s about slowing down, taking a mindful step, and letting your body and mind reconnect. EMDR and walking can be two simple yet powerful ways to help you feel lighter, steadier, and more like yourself again.If you are curious about how EMDR might support your healing journey, or if you simply want to feel more grounded and at peace, I welcome you to reach out. We can walk through your healing process together, one gentle step at a time.

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Infidelity and the Path to Healing-Healing After Infidelity: Coping When Trust Is Broken

Writer: Maryam Omidbeigy
Maryam Omidbeigy
Nov 1
5 min read

Infidelity When Safety in Your Closest Relationship Falls Apart


Sometimes, one of the deepest pains a person can experience in a relationship comes from the very place that was supposed to feel safest. When infidelity occurs in a marriage, it can feel as though your entire picture of your shared life has suddenly cracked. The person whose presence you relied on, whose words you believed, and beside whom you imagined your future has now become a source of pain and doubt. For many people, infidelity can be among the most intense forms of emotional pain in close relationships, because it wounds love, trust, self-worth, and a sense of safety all at once, and healing after infidelity takes time.


Woman wrapped in a blanket, looking out a rainy window at the mountains
Betrayal wounds trust, self-worth, and safety all at once

One of the hardest parts of this experience is the loss of security. It is as though the ground that once felt solid beneath your feet can no longer be trusted. You may ask yourself, ‘If the person closest to me could hide so much, how can I know what else I do not know?’ Your mind begins replaying conversations, messages, and memories. Events that once seemed ordinary take on a different meaning. Even happy moments from the past may come into question: ‘Were they really present with me then? Was that affection real? When did something begin to change?’ This uncertainty about the past can be just as exhausting as fear of the future. But healing After Infidelity: and we can support you in this journey to Cope When Trust Is Broken.

an sitting by a rain-streaked window, looking down in thought
Questioning the past can be as exhausting as fearing the future.

Sometimes, this mistrust extends beyond the marriage to other people and even to the world itself. You may accept kindness cautiously, search for hidden meanings in people’s words, or feel that no relationship is truly safe. One part of you wants to lean on someone again, while another keeps warning you that closeness is dangerous. These feelings are understandable after trust has been broken. Still, how you feel about everyone today is not necessarily a lasting truth about your life. You may be seeing the world through a wound that is still very fresh.


Man sitting on the edge of a bed in the early morning, deep in thought
Some questions help you decide. Others keep you stuck in a loop.

Infidelity can also wound your relationship with yourself. You may repeatedly ask, ‘What was I missing? Was I not attractive enough? Not lovable enough? Why did they not choose me?’ Comparing yourself with the other person can gradually become a daily source of suffering: comparing appearance, age, success, or any other quality your mind latches onto. But feeling inadequate is not evidence that you are inadequate. Problems within a relationship can be explored, including each partner’s contribution to them. However, responsibility for secrecy and breaking a commitment belongs to the person who chose those actions. Your partner’s choices do not diminish your worth, even if you feel completely forgotten right now.


Man sitting alone on a park bench by the water at dusk
What feels true right now may be the wound speaking, not the whole story.

This pain may come with shame and humiliation, even though being hurt is nothing you should have to feel ashamed of. You may feel embarrassed to tell anyone, fear being judged, or want to keep others from knowing what has happened in your life. You may smile in company and fall apart in private. Sometimes anger, longing, and love exist together: you are deeply hurt by someone and still want that same person to comfort you. These conflicting feelings can be confusing, but they do not mean you are weak or lack willpower. Attachment, memories, and years of shared life do not disappear overnight when a painful truth comes to light.

Woman looking at her reflection in a bedroom mirror
 Their choices do not decide your worth.

Along the way, you may grieve many things: the trust you once had, the future you imagined, the image you held of your partner, and even the version of yourself who lived with greater confidence. The relationship may still be continuing, yet you feel a profound loss within it. This can make the grief more complicated, because the person who is still present no longer holds the same meaning for you. You do not need to justify your sadness further or compare it with anyone else’s suffering. Something important in your life has been hurt, and you have a right to grieve it.

Man at a kitchen table with his head in his hands
 Love and shared history don’t disappear overnight.

Sometimes this strain also shows up in your body and daily life: sleep becomes disrupted, appetite changes, concentration becomes difficult, and ordinary tasks take a great deal of energy. Your mind may keep searching for details, hoping that knowing everything will finally bring peace. The need to understand what happened and receive answers is understandable. Yet endlessly replaying images and questions does not always bring relief. Sometimes you need support to distinguish which answers are necessary for making decisions and where your mind has become caught in a painful loop.


Woman sitting alone at a dining table, gazing out at the water
You have a right to grieve what was hurt.

Despite the weight of this experience, healing is possible. Today, you may be unable to imagine sleeping peacefully again, trusting yourself, or enjoying anything. But the intensity of your feelings in this moment does not determine your future. Healing is usually gradual, with harder days and easier ones. One day you may feel a little steadier, and the next a memory may bring you to tears again. These fluctuations do not mean you have failed. To cope with something this significant, you need time, care, and support, rather than criticism for not feeling better yet.

Man walking along a garden path toward the sunset over the water
Healing takes time, care, and support, not pressure to be “over it.”

Psychotherapy can offer meaningful help along this path. In a safe space, you can talk about your anger, shame, longing, and fears without having to defend your feelings. Therapy can help you understand how this experience has affected your self-worth, find ways to manage exhausting thoughts, and see your boundaries and needs more clearly. For some people, the pain of infidelity becomes so heavy that carrying it alone is extremely difficult. You do not have to wait until you are completely overwhelmed before seeking help. Asking for support means taking your suffering seriously and valuing your own care.


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Reaching out for support is a way of taking your pain seriously.

You do not have to forgive immediately, stay, separate, or enter another relationship in order to heal. You can first take steps toward restoring stability and a sense of safety in your life, then make decisions about the future with enough time and support. If the relationship is to be rebuilt, that process requires honesty, accountability, and consistently trustworthy behaviour from the person who was unfaithful. One person’s efforts alone are not enough. And if your path leads to separation, building a meaningful and safe life is still possible. You deserve honesty, respect, and a safe relationship. Right now, you also deserve support and companionship in your pain. Healing After Infidelity is possible and I can help you coping When Trust Is Broken.


You don’t have to carry this alone.


If you’re struggling after infidelity, Maryam Omidbeygi, Ph.D., RCC, offers a safe, non-judgmental space to work through the hurt, the questions, and the decisions ahead, at your own pace. Sessions are available in English and Farsi, in person in Coquitlam or online.

 
 
 

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